The full guide

Before you begin

• Have a relaxed conversation first. Ask what they would find helpful, and what worries them.
• Address the fear of replacement directly: this is a tool to stay closer, not a reason to visit less.
• Choose the device they are most comfortable with, and set text size large.

Set it up to serve them

• Use the Grok Bot desktop app for setup, for testing, and for recovering the computer if the phone says it cannot connect. Install Grok Bot from the App Store or Google Play for the phone, and put it on the home screen.
• Sign in with a Cursor account. Grok Bot is included with several plans: Premium, Super, or Ultra on X, legacy Cursor paid plans and Cursor Teams, or a linked SuperGrok, SuperGrok Plus, SuperGrok Heavy, or X Premium+ account. If the account already includes access, do not buy a second subscription in the App Store or on Google Play.
• Use your own account for your planning. Do not do their daily life by logging in as them.
• Create one primary Bot. In the first message, give it the job, the rules, and the approval boundaries, and ask it to remember them. That Bot is the one they always talk to.
• Ordinary facts can stay in memory, such as the spare key. Logins, cards, and contact info go in Vault, not in memory and not in the chat.
• On the phone, Calendar, Contacts, Reminders, and alarms work only while the Grok Bot app is open. If the app is closed, the Bot will ask them to open it.
• Approvals appear as cards with Allow once and Deny. Show them both buttons. Deny is always safe.
• Phone notifications tell them when a Bot is waiting. While the desktop app is open on a Mac or Windows computer, those alerts may go to the desktop instead.

Specialists, only after the first week

Start with the one primary Bot. Later, create a specialist in chat only when a job should have its own rules, such as pills, mail, or family stories. The primary Bot coordinates. They do not tap between names. The jobs are in “Your team of helpers.”

Routines that run on their own

• Ask the Bot that should own the job to create the routine. Skills are shared across Bots. A routine belongs to one Bot and runs in the cloud.
• A new routine waits for its next scheduled time. It does not run the minute you create it.
• A morning note around 7:30, with weather, the calendar, and that day’s pills. Delivery is a Bot message or a notification.
• Sunday evening: birthdays, appointments, and who they have not talked with.
• If a morning note stops, open the routine and check for Paused. After a long absence, Grok Bot may pause routines if no one responds.
• Email to the Bot’s own address can start a routine, but only from known senders, such as the pharmacy, the insurer, or the doctor’s office. Never from strangers.

Teach gently

• Sit beside them for the first few sessions. Let them talk, or let them type. Do not take over.
• Show Start voice chat first, with the message box empty. Start dictation is for one spoken message. Typing is the backup.
• On an iPhone, you can add the Siri shortcut Start Dictation, so they can speak without opening the app while the phone is unlocked.
• Start with two or three uses, such as weather, a reminder, and a chat. Add more over time.
• Fill in the helper contact card and offer to print this guide in large type.
• Praise small successes.

Stay involved

• Check in weekly at first, then as needed.
• Ask what they enjoyed and what was frustrating.
• Review routines every few months, and after any long trip.
• Watch for signs of loneliness or confusion. The assistant is a support, never a substitute for your care or for professional help.

Safety checklist

• Passcode on their phone or computer.
• They have practiced an Allow once card and a Deny card.
• They know never to share passwords, PINs, or one-time codes in the chat. Those belong in Vault, if they belong anywhere.
• They know to ask you, or the Bot, before acting on urgent requests. The Bot should not send them off with a simple yes or no.
• Emergency numbers (911, their doctor, you) written somewhere visible.
• They know that tagging @bot on X gets a short public reply. Personal questions stay inside Grok Bot.
• Privacy choices live on the Cursor account. Write down what you chose.
• Grok Bot cannot place phone calls. It can draft a message and remind them to call.